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  • Somatic Resilience

    Somatic Resilience

    As you read these words, take a moment to notice the position of your body and the points at which it is in contact with your clothes, maybe your feet on the ground, or maybe your legs on a chair. Notice where your hands are resting or perhaps holding a phone as you scan these sentences. Take a breath and notice being in your body. Welcome to your soma. 

    The Greek word soma means, “the living body in its wholeness”, which includes language, feelings, senses, narratives and the capacity to look at the past, present and future. Present to the moment, open to the future and able to integrate the past. (StrozziInstitute)

    What is Somatic Coaching?

    Somatic coaching is an invitation to learn how to ‘shape’ your body (or soma) to build your resilience and adaptive abilities to meet and lead within the complex challenges and difficult conversations we live with wholeness, possibility, tenderness, strength and healing.

    Why connecting to the body is so important 

    • What if holding difficult conversations and leading in challenging times is not simply about our thinking, or the words we use or our actions, but also about how we shape our ‘body’ in navigating complex contexts? 
    • What if there is an intuitive wisdom that we can connect with within our soma?
    • What if a natural starting point for these challenging times is the way we ‘shape’ up to meet them?

    In the book “Your Body is Your Brain: Leverage Your Somatic Intelligence to Find Purpose, Build Resilience, Deepen Relationships and Lead More Powerfully”, Amanda Blake brilliantly draws a picture of how one’s repeated gestures and physical structure affect one’s mood, mood affects one’s actions and actions affect both our relationships and our results. To be able to act from our core values towards a vision we hold for the world, it is important that we stay connected to ourselves and know how to always return to our centre.

    Being in relationship with your neo-cortex allows you as a leader to relax and access deeply held wisdom, knowledge and information. This deeply held wisdom, knowledge and information helps you make sense of existing situations and offers a way to navigate new challenges. If you can make a change based on what you care about, then you can heal, become whole, responsive and vital. If you can create more clarity around relationships, then you can make centred choices and actions.

    “The body is always in the present.” 

    Why are somatic coaching and somatic practices important now?

    The basis of business and society is shifting, and the stakes are high. Leaders are noticing that systems they thought were stable are starting to fail. As leaders they are being asked, within a context of fragility and uncertainty, to radically reimagine the people, priorities and processes needed to meet today’s complex challenges. And meeting those complex challenges requires resilience and adaptation, but not the sort of resilience and adaptation you may be used to as a leader in a business or organisation. 

    Resilience and adaptation in a business or an organisation often shows up as people being asked to push harder or work longer to sustain systems that aren’t working well. Changes come too fast, and adaptations are too rigid and not aligned with or supportive of businesses or the planet’s living systems. The reactions are not adapting to the context(s) they are in; they are adapting to the context(s) they think they are in.

    What do leaders actually need?

    Leaders need to be able to hold the tensions and conflicts and not collapse.

    Living systems constantly adapt and build resilience; otherwise, they lose vitality and die. Under pressure, leaders can narrow their capacity to meet the present moment, be thrown off course from what matters, and fail to move fluidly to mature outcomes. 

    Cultivating Resilience

    Resilience is our innate ability to return to a calm, coherent state, to return to a state of wellbeing with a positive imagination of the future. With somatic coaching we can practise going to the place of our resilience on purpose, feeling our aliveness and experiencing a sense of future possibility. Resilience is not just a way to bounce back from adverse experiences – it also helps us to open to our own transformation. Somatic resilience keeps inviting us toward wholeness, possibility, tenderness, strength and healing. We can cultivate somatic resilience for ourselves, those we love, our organisations and our communities. 

    What are leaders facing?

    Leaders are facing a number of difficult and complex challenges:

    • Double binds: feeling their hand is forced and not knowing how to get to a place of choice
    • Holding those who are tired on the frontline and needing to be able to support them well
    • Mental health concerns – being in our ‘head’ without connecting to our bodies where we can give more space for our psyche to process the pressures of the world
    • Being physically unwell: when we don’t make space for meaning-making and sense-making and aligning our bodies and mind’s wisdom.
    • Being out of touch with our feelings and emotions: often being in overdrive and adrenalised states for long periods of time

    Somatic practice allows us to return to a more regulated state, with more access to our knowledge and a deeper sense of knowing.

    Quote 

    “People cannot perceive complexity when they are stressed.” 

    Nora Bateson – noted in an online conversation with Nora

    How does Somatic coaching and Somatic practices help leaders? 

    Somatic coaching and practices can directly address the needs of leaders to:

    • Build the resilience needed to manage the complex times and speed of change.
    • Grow a set of methods to respond and act under pressure while remaining in choice.
    • Respond rather than react.
    • Embody what’s vital for you and act from this place.
    • Know how to, and, set boundaries more clearly and distinctly.
    • Prepare better for internal emotional preparation for challenging situations.
    • Experience quicker recovery from challenging conversations and situations.
    • Allow a daily emergent practice(s) that supports you to function in challenging times and move towards what you care about.

    Becoming who we are – our authentic self

    Somatic work invites us into a physical alignment with our authentic self – we can become who we are, rather than ‘standing’ for what we are not. When we stand in alignment, our whole body becomes aligned inside and outside: our organs have the right amount of space around them to function as optimally as possible given the condition they are in; our blood can flow freely around our living system delivering the complex functions it is designed to perform within our living organism.

    When we ‘hold’ and show up with a balanced and centred body we can extend our human capacity to meet with the world as it presents itself to us in that moment.

    The Paradoxical Theory of Change 

    “The Paradoxical Theory of Change states that change occurs when we become what we are, not when we try to become what we are not.” 

    Arnold Beisser, M.D. The Paradoxical Theory of Change.* 1

    This Paradoxical Theory of Change is a critical aspect for leaders to keep in mind. Crucially, this change is not coercive and does not involve a change agent. The transformation occurs because the human being senses into the soma as it is in that moment – becoming who they are in that moment rather than trying to become something that is expected or conditioned by an external change agent. The dance is between who we sense ourselves to be and what we think we ‘should’ be. When we can ‘still’ that dance for a moment we become who we are in that moment and the next moment and so on and so forth. What this becoming who we are in each moment does is obviate the need for ‘trying’ to be anything other than who we are.

    The end point of this way of relating is when each person can be authentic while still maintaining intimate contact with the other in each moment.

    Examples and case studies

    • Creating the possibility to stay in relationship through conflict….. With somatic practice, a person can stay in a centred state and stay in relationship albeit with conflict and tension. It creates more possibility to de-polarise situations while still finding ways to speak your truth.
    • Being in somatic practice also can be an entrance to creativity – inviting the potential for people to connect and to create conditions for creativity and sometimes flow states. Generate more experience of relaxation. Centred and relaxed – not sloppy – good tension for action.

    Reflections

    Somatic coaching and practice supports leaders in perceiving complexity, conflict and possibilities and responding more frequently with wisdom from their most mature self.

    In order to hold the tensions and conflicts and not collapse, leaders need to be able to cultivate somatic resilience – inviting us with slowness, awareness and humility toward wholeness, possibility, tenderness, strength and healing. 

    Somatic transformation comes when we can shift our perception to see and acknowledge the individual and collective fields that we live within. When individuals and collectives can perceive the ‘shape’ previously embodied there is an opportunity to work somatically to transform the ‘shape’. For leaders, holding and transforming these individual and collective fields is hard without somatic practice and awareness. 

    Call to Action

    Fraendi runs 90-minute introduction workshops for people in organisations to experience somatic coaching, meet us, and see whether it works for them. Alternatively, you can contact us for a one-on-one chemistry session.

    1. The Paradoxical Theory of Change ↩︎
  • In 11 years time….2035

    In 11 years time….2035

    “We are ill-prepared to respond to the gravity of the tsunami that is coming.”

    What is 2035?

    2035 is an initiative for businesses to host a future-focused senior team and/or boardroom meeting to radically reimagine the people, priorities and processes needed to meet climate change and other relevant issues of our polycrisis over the next 11 years.

    2035 is an invitation for organisations and businesses to go beyond sustaining BAU and into conversations that really matter and that allow the innovative, disruptive and adaptive changes required to emerge. 

    2035 is based on the open-source B-Labs idea Boards 2030. The experience generates deep, disruptive shifts in understanding about the sort of changes and new territory people and organisations will find themselves in. Learnings and insights from a conversation based around future scenarios are surprisingly impactful challenging existing thinking on:

    • Organisational Strategy
    • Business Models 
    • Risk
    • Supply Chain
    • Organisational and human capacities

    As part of the process, when people come back into a 2024 conversation informed with insights and learnings, a new sense of what is important is generated that creates energy and possibilities on how to take next steps, consider contingencies and risk for the organisation and the whole sector. 

    Every choice, every decision about what is helpful is vital. Many of the less difficult choices and actions have been done. Businesses and organisations now need to move on to the most difficult issues to find simple and effective choices and actions. 2035 is a way to help you see and understand what innovations, prototypes and adaptations work for your organisation and your sector. 

    Why is 2035 critical now for senior leadership teams and boards?

    The basis of business is being questioned. To meet this, businesses and organisations need to let go of familiar ground to explore, but still need enough familiar ground to function. Leaders can sense this but are feeling uncertain about how to navigate the diversity of opinions that exist and the seemingly entrenched institutions and influences of power.

    Many people share similar concerns, and it is critically important that people come together to explore these difficult questions. 2035 can help you hold and navigate these conversations so they are not so difficult.

    Many organisations and sectors won’t survive unless they start to think in disruptive and innovative ways.

    “Exponential change takes time but when it comes it has a profound impact.”

    Christiana Figueres, former Executive Secretary of the UN Framework Convention on Climate Change (UNFCCC), 2023

    There are differing potential 2035 futures for your industry and sector depending on the extent of climate breakdown and your sector’s embrace of transformative adaptation. All the alternative scenarios are driven ultimately by taking greenhouse gas reduction and transformative adaptation/resilience-building seriously. However, the answer to other crises like wars, disruptions in the supply chain, technology disruptions, floods, migration etc. will equally inform your orientation.

    Businesses and organisations need to move beyond bureaucratic tick box approaches to ‘sustainability’ and move rapidly into adaptive changes. 2035 is a critical step on the journey, and it will generate prototypes, innovations and shifts that feel real, that are authentic, that cohere, and that stand up to scrutiny.

    A single company or organisation cannot make the changes alone and survive, whole sectors need to go together. Fraendi is working alongside the Climate Majority Project on their business campaign looking to work with whole sectors to ask the government to regulate sectors. Fraendi is part of hosting these much needed conversations, where we have been inviting in the leaders who are holding their power and wisdom well in these critical times.

    What will happen during 2035?

    2035 is experiential and Fraendi will prepare with you and co-host a lively, thought provoking 1⁄2 day senior management or board meeting, as if it is 2035.

    It involves a three stage process:

    1. Getting Ready
    • Meet, connect and prepare with colleagues and diverse stakeholders. Deep dive into future scenarios and implications for your organisation and sector and how to hold difficult and inspiring conversations around this.
    • Research and interview new voices and diverse stakeholders to inform future scenarios.
    • Share perspectives and find common ground.
    • Align on the 2035 meeting design based on scenarios and strategic questions that will underpin the simulated experience.
    1. The Simulation

    Fraendi will collaborate with you to host a half-day senior management or board meeting, as if in 2035.

    1. Review & Next Steps

    Reflection and review conversation (90 minutes) to deepen and awaken disruptive thinking, key insights, possibilities and pragmatic or bold next steps.

    Outcomes – Getting Real

    Walk away with:

    • A deeper understanding of the resilience of your business model and identified areas of risk, possibly mapped against probability and impact on the business
    • Clarity on future senior leadership team capacities required to meet the change and disruption of the next decade
    • A clearer sense of how to adapt to broader organisational needs within an increasingly disruptive environment and multiple complex challenges

    Everything we do now to adapt to what is coming makes a difference.

  • What is the cost of leaders that cannot meet today’s challenges?

    What is the cost of leaders that cannot meet today’s challenges?

    Recruiting for Senior Leadership positions is costly and high risk. Fraendi can help you reduce that risk and hire well by using our Leadership Profiles. Leadership profiles use the best researched Harvard based profiles to look into enabling factors in a person and what they are capable of, and look into the mind and thinking of people. They will help you recruit ambitious leaders that have the inner development and skills to meet the novel and complex challenges that businesses and organisations are facing today. 

    Today’s leaders face an increasing number of novel and complex challenges within a multitude of contexts and require a particular set of developmental skills to navigate these well. Leaders are being called to lead in the face of the unknown and uncertain. Leadership is no longer mainly about ensuring stability or the question of adapting to a huge technological shift. There is a strong demand for a more in-depth ability to perceive what is actually happening, create orientation and clarity when there is general uncertainty and to make decisions without knowing in advance what the outcome will be. 

    These living strategies are vital for your business or organisation and yet, only leaders with a particular leadership profile have the skills to enable them to meet and navigate within these living systems.

    What is the cost of recruiting Leaders who cannot meet today’s challenges?

    Remember the Senior Leadership hire that started out full of ambition, single-minded focus and created expectation that was so attractive to the business but was unable to sustain or deliver over the medium term. 

    The pattern of this ‘tunnel view’ approach reveals itself over time in one or more symptoms:

    • toxic leadership, 
    • micromanagement, 
    • harassment 
    • increasing numbers of complaints.

    Remember the disappointment, dysfunction and damage that emerged as the vitality of the organisation waned and instead of breakthroughs, black holes began to appear. Remember how the team(s) became a high stress, low energy workforce and a breakdown in trust began to take over. Perhaps, for example, after an initial boost in sales in the first year that the following 2-5 years showed a drop in quality and expectations and long term client relationships began to fray. By the time you realised what was happening the damage had been done and this leader, who lacked empathy, had no sense or awareness of the damage they were creating. 

    These leaders have a self-orientated profile.

    What skills and abilities does a leader with the most suitable developmental profile bring?

    A leader with the most suitable developmental profile has a self orientation that allows them to be self-authoring. At first appearance these leaders may seem less ambitious than people with a self-orientated profile because they are calibrating the opportunities they are living within with their own principles and view of the world. In interviews these leaders might not sell themselves as strongly as a person with a self-orientated profile.

    We have all met these leaders as our boss or colleague at some point in our lives. They are distinguished by: 

    • Independence of thought and judgement
    • Developed sense of empathy
    • Ability to take difficult decisions well and with consideration
    • Ability to articulate own principles 
    • Skills to create reliable lasting relationships 
    • Ability to calibrate well and choose differently
    • Share their inner worlds and can reflect on it

    The pattern of this self-authoring approach reveals itself over time in the ability to:

    • Recognise and navigate within the complexity
    • Deliver systems growth (not just self growth)
    • See and live well within the systems they are part of – perceive seemingly unrelated relationships
    • Evolve a generative vitality that can sustain, adapt, transform or metamorphosize

    These are the leaders that can deliver a living strategy for the business when the ground is unknown and uncertain.

    How can leadership profiles tell the difference between leadership patterns?

    If at first glance self-orientated and self-authored profiles can appear similar what will allow you to discern the difference at the hiring stage?

    Leadership profiles differ because of the quality of the 50-minute in depth interview/conversation. In most interviews a self-orientated profile will be able to ‘hide’ and ‘play the game’ of what you want to hear. The leadership profile interview counteracts these tendencies such that after a while a self-orientated profile cannot sustain ‘playing the game’ and will drop into the reality of where their lived centre of gravity really is. 

    A self-authored person will want to share their inner worlds and reflect on it, revealing rather than hiding themselves and embracing the conversation as an enriching process. As generative people they like the interview/conversation and learn a lot from it. 

    The leadership leadership profiles allow you to:

    • Go behind the mask and look into enabling factors a person has developed
    • Understand what their inner development capacities are and are capable of
    • Identify the edges of current perception and ground for action
    • Deconstruct how people define opportunities
      •  how they see organisations as systems
      •  how they can meet and navigate complexity

    If these profiles interest you, to find out more or to organise for an assessment for yourself or a colleague, please email: hema@fraendi.org

  • Family Business – Living Strategies

    Family Business – Living Strategies

    Family businesses are complex living systems that contribute to the wider weave of contexts and communities in which they ‘live’ – family, economy, ecology, culture, education, history, etc. So, what would happen if instead of focussing on what the ‘definition’ of a family business is, we shift perspective and explore where the edge of a family business might be and what strategies coalesce to maintain its vitality.

    Where is the edge of a business?

    If you reflect on this question it can become quite tricky to pinpoint. A family business is in some ways like a gathering. There are plenty of examples of family businesses who consider their employees as ‘extended family’ and family businesses can often comprise one or more families. So where is the edge? Is it in the family, the extended family, the customers, within the bricks and mortar building (if one exists), is it in the numbers in the Annual Report? And what happens if your family business holds 350-years of history in its craft, in its buildings and across many other contexts – now what has happened to the edge of the business?

    A Living Strategy

    The wisdom of not reducing a family business to one ’thing’, is that it invites us to consider how the business lives, and how it can continue as a vital business. At the present time businesses are facing a polycrisis and business as usual no longer seems to apply. Businesses are required to be resilient, flexible, curious, playful, to embrace uncertainty and to own their complexity.

    And that resilience, flexibility, curiousness, playfulness, embracing of uncertainty and owning complexity requires more than a response or reaction to outside ‘threats’, it also invites the opportunity for leadership to emerge in new ways and with new possibilities through ‘inner development’. What kind of leadership is required to navigate the polycrisis? And where does leadership reside in a family business? What new skills and strategies might be helpful to care for a family business and tend to the unfolding crisis at the same time?

    One possibility is to imagine the business as a living system and to develop a living strategy that weaves into a collective development to navigate the uncertainty. Strategy after all is everything that a family business does, all its interactions, its way of being, which has an effect on the outside world. A good strategy makes this explicit, understandable and actionable for employees and stakeholders. It is alive.

    Fraendi’s Living Strategy process is a holistic, dynamic, self-regulating methodology designed to help leadership teams chart new paradigm-shifting pathways and build purposeful objectives for stakeholders and decision-makers alike. If a family business strategy could respond and adapt with care, compassion and tenderness for all that is present – how might that emerge as a strategy? It will be different for each family business because each family business lives in its own unique complexity, and is part of a larger weave.

    Often a family business is already taking a long term and sustainable view within its overall strategy, looking generations back and forward to craft a way forward that lives in ideas of stewardship and of being custodians for future generations. And this is complex as there is a constant need to allow outdated strategies to die off at the same time as tending the soil for resilient, adaptive strategies to emerge and support the business and wider ecologies longer term.

    If you are curious to learn more about Fraendi’s Living Strategy process or 2035 or how to make the livingness of the living system be a shared practice and a shared belief that Fraendi supports organisations with, then reach out at hello@fraendi.org

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