once upon a time, my favourite cup broke into pieces. my brother had given it to me, it once had belonged to someone he loved. the handle was broken off already. he didnâ€™t want to throw it away, so when he moved houses, i took it. i came to love it, with itâ€™s broken handle and it became my favourite cup. and then, one day, it fell of the kitchen board and broke into many sharp edged pieces.
once upon a time, my relating really deeply got hurt. something within me broke into pieces. not only once, but many times. my heart, my trust, my favourite feelings of being accepted, nourished, appreciated broke into pieces. the experiences i had with other human beings, with school mates, colleagues, women, older men had left brokenness in my relating to others. the sharp edges of the pieces were or still are able to hurt myself and others. i became overly cautious and overly mistrusting.
How does adult development play into the internal narratives we hold? How can we shift those narratives?
Internal narratives are the stories we tell ourselves about the world. It’s our self-talk, the way we explain or attempt to think something through. By better understanding these narratives, we can see where to shift toward to change the structure of our thinking.
I wish that we as a society deal seriously with the topic – that we use current and existing research results as the basis for long overdue and necessary changes. How do we become more mature, ready to master soul storms, more empathetic people? How can we get to know ourselves and our patterns, our sensitivities, vulnerabilities and strengths so that we can become deliberate, co-creating members of the community?
I stumbled over the term the first time when i attended a grief ritual held by Naf Tali in berlin in december 2018. When he said it, it hit home right away. We were 8 or maybe 10 people, coming together for the first time, to grieve together. I had had a tough year of...
What I need in order to be able to do this, is being open to the fact that my perspective on the world is just one perspective and not reality itself. And that this perspective doesn’t define who I am, so doesn’t need to be defended for that reason. That stance is one of the most important stances – if not THE – to be able to develop.
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